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From Conflict to Caring

A companion to the best-selling book of the same title, this popular, newly revised workbook helps couples create a deeply satisfying, more intimate relationship. Focusing on the ever-present dynamic of conflict-and the process of working through it-the authors guide couples in getting to the root of recurring disagreements and destructive behaviors. Self-assessment exercises and couple activities help readers recognize unloving responses, move past fear, identify self-protective and negative beliefs, break down power struggles, and reach out in forgiveness. The principles outlined in this pow
eBook, English, 2011
Hazelden, Center City, 2011
1 online resource (174 pages)
9781616491291, 1616491299
1089990548
Intro; Title Page; Copyright; Contents; Acknowledgments; Introduction to the Second Edition; Section One; Chapter 1: From Conflict to Caring; Chapter 2: Our Personal Odyssey: Untangling a Codependent System; Section Two; Chapter 3: Loving Behavior; 1. A Definition of Loving Behavior; Exercise 1A: Checklist-Self-limiting Beliefs That Get in the Way of Loving Behavior; Exercise 1B: Checklist-Self-limiting Beliefs about Loving Behavior; Exercise 1C: Checklist-Self-limiting Beliefs about Love Relationships; 2. Your Higher Self; Exercise 2A: Finding Your Higher Self; 3. Personal Responsibility Exercise 3A: The Ways You Believe Yourself to Be a VictimExercise 3B: Finding the Loving Response in a Conflict; Exercise 3C: Checklist-Self-limiting Beliefs about Responsibility; 4. Unmet Expectations; Exercise 4A: Learning from Unmet Expectations; Exercise 4B: Checklist-Self-limiting Beliefs about Expectations; Exercise 4C: Checklist-Self-limiting Beliefs about Expectations for Children; 5. Reviewing the Day for Loving and Unloving Behavior; Chapter 4: Basic Learning Skills; 6. Learning from a Conflict; Exercise 6A: Basic Format for Learning from a Conflict 7. Challenging Self-limiting BeliefsExercise 7A: Basic Format for Challenging Self-limiting Beliefs; 8. Exploring Beliefs about Right and Wrong; Exercise 8A: Basic Format for Exploring Beliefs about Right and Wrong; 9. Learning from Your Feelings; Exercise 9A: Basic Format for Learning from Your Feelings; 10. Learning from Your Reaction to an Emotional Violation; Exercise 10A: Checklist-Ways You May Be Violating Another's Boundaries; Exercise 10B: Checklist-Ways You May Be Allowing Others to Violate Your Boundaries Exercise 10C: Basic Format for Learning from Your Reaction to an Emotional Violation11. Questions to Ask When Wanting to Learn about Another Person; Chapter 5: Moving Out of Protection; 12. The Learning Letter; Exercise 12A: How to Write a Learning Letter; 13. Passive Listening; Exercise 13A: How to Listen Passively; 14. Active Listening; Exercise 14A: Ways to Practice Active Listening; Exercise 14B: Checklist-Self-limiting Beliefs about Listening and Learning; 15. Power Struggles; Exercise 15A: Breaking a Power Struggle and Learning from It Exercise 15B: Checklist-Self-limiting Beliefs about Being Right or Wrong in a Power Struggle16. Summary: Ways to Move Out of Protection; Chapter 6: Protections and Consequences; 17. The Overtly Controlling Position: Your Overt Attempts to Change Another; Exercise 17A: How Do You Look and Sound When You're Attempting to Control?; Exercise 17B: Checklist-The Ways You Attempt to Overtly Control Others; Exercise 17C: Checklist-Self-limiting Beliefs about Control; 18. Looking at Compliance and Emotional Caretaking; Exercise 18A: How Do You Rationalize Compliance?
Exercise 18B: Checklist-The Compliant Position